Karma chameleon

~ How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. ~

Okay, I am taking a day off of the photo challenge to write about something else. An issue that has always irritated me and decided to raise its ugly head again when it occurred to a good friend of mine this week.

 About two years ago she found out he was cheating on her.  When confronted he cried and apologized, insisting he loved her and that it was over. Since she loved him, she took him back. They had history together, a family, comfort.

It took awhile, but slowly things began to go back to normal and she learned to trust him again.  Her doubts left her and she allowed herself to regain her own confidence. 

Then one day she discovered a text on his cellphone. From that very same girl he had been with before.

Of course he denied the accusations. The girl was crazy. She just couldn’t get over him.

But upon contacting this rival love interest, she was given concrete proof of his infidelities. And it broke her heart and turned her world upside down.

Now answer me this, why do people cheat?  I just don’t understand it. 

Is it the thrill of hiding something from someone who supposedly knows you so well? If that’s the case, why even bother? As soon as the person you are cheating on finds out, the cat is out of the bag and the excitement is gone.  So then both relationships will have lost their spark and be over.

If you love this new person so much…heck, even if it is just merely an intense like…shouldn’t that tell you that maybe you weren’t meant to be with the person you have been with?

Floyd and I agreed a long time ago that if either of us were to ever come across someone who peaked our interests we would be honest and tell each other. No sneaking behind the other’s back to see how things might work out.

If you loved this person enough to be with them, why would you want to risk breaking their heart? Don’t play the coward and ‘wait and see’ how this alternate relationship works out before you come clean.  Have some guts. Have some respect.  If your heart is not in it, let them go.

I have seen so many people that I care about have their hearts broken this way, and each time it happens I just don’t get it. I, myself, was cheated on once upon a time and it ended that relationship. Yeah, it would have sucked if he had broken up with me when he started digging the new girl, but it would have sucked a whole lot less than it did when I found out he was stepping out.

So ladies and gentlemen the message is this: BE LOYAL. BE HONEST. BE RESPECTFUL.

Because if you’re not, karma is coming for your ass.